When You Don’t Want to Change But Know You Should

I am 52 years old and am over 300 pounds.  Though all my vitals are normal, there will come a day when hypertension, diabetes, or some other health issue will dominate my life.  More than that, God called me to be a steward of my body.  I don’t want my wife and kids to suffer because of some health issue befalling me, especially when it could have been prevented.  

Despite all of that, I still am resisting.  I would rather the comfort and ease that comes from choosing whatever I want to eat.  This is sick and wrong, and I see it.  

I have paid therapists and coaches to help me.  I’ve had accountability, found the “right” lifestyle diet change to make, and tried to inspire myself, but all is short-lived.  It is sick.  

There are real psychological issues that are impacting weight loss.  But behind it, I sense raw rebellion.  I am not repentant.  I am not looking at this like I need to look at this.

So what do we do when we don’t want to change something we should change?  

We have to see how it impacts God.  Genesis 6 talks about God being grieved to His heart that He created man.  Sin impacts Him.  We need to chew on that.  This is the God that substituted Himself for us.  He suffered to pay our sin debt.  He provides well for us.  He loves us with all He has and is, and He has bound His heart to us.  What we do affects Him.

What must it be like for the God who exhibits the fruit of the Spirit to be grieved by sin?  It must be painful, insulting.  It is a betrayal.  He uses language like “forsake” that shows our sin is like a spouse would feel when their spouse commits adultery.  He is infinitely holy so it must be a deep pain.  

Instead of mustering up inspiration yet again, instead of trying some new method to get on track, the first step must be repentance by seeing how sin affects Him and then begging Him for the gift of repentance.

Chew On This:

  • What would be different about your pet sin if you saw how indulging in it would impact Christ?

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Ryan Bailey

Ryan Bailey has been a counselor, coach, and consultant for over 30 years, growing thousands of leaders, high-performing teams, churches, and families. In his journey, he's seen that nothing compares to putting God first above all else: not just spiritually, but physically, relationally, strategically, and financially too. His mission is to help others make Christ their 1st Principle.