Marriage Counseling
As followers of Christ, we are called to show love for others and the truth of Scripture in every aspect of our lives. Love and truth should be especially present in our marriages, where they serve as the bedrock of our relationship with our spouse. However, balancing love and truth can sometimes be challenging, particularly…
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What do you do if you and your spouse find yourselves embroiled in conflict that never seems to go anywhere? In order to see progress and find resolution, it can be helpful to use a tool that we call the “Safe Zone Exercise”. A Safe Zone is where you and your spouse create a set…
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Remember Song of Solomon? it seems like the husband and wife depicted had a lot of fun together. They expressed so many forms of oneness: emotional, relational, spiritual, and obviously physical. Where has that gone in your marriage? Was it ever really there? Working with couples for two decades, I’ve seen how easy it is…
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You have been through a lot of pain. A massive level of betrayal rocked your world, and life has changed. Now, some time later, the pain isn’t as sharp, but it’s there. Just reading the first paragraph of this blog makes you more aware of it than before you started reading. What happened to…
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I’ve been meeting with many clients about overcoming the emotional pain of divorce lately, so we thought I should talk about divorce-proofing a marriage as well. Most of our clients are Christians, and they take divorce seriously. We all know how painful (and expensive!) divorce is, so I encourage everyone: take your marriages seriously too! …
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“We are all treading around, stumbling on each other’s toes as we are learning to love.” Sue Johnson To the injuring* partner, (*I use the word injuring to imply one who is or has inflicted pain on another, whether through infidelity, neglect, blame and criticism, or another form of relational hurt.) You need a safe…
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“Everyone says that forgiveness is a lovely idea, until they have something to forgive.” C.S. Lewis To those who have felt betrayed by your spouse, specifically through an affair: You could be anywhere on this journey of betrayal. Maybe the waves of shock have passed, leaving remnants of confusion and pain. Maybe numbness has set…
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By Ryan C. Bailey Jack and Jill have been married for years. Jack runs his own company and Jill keeps more than busy taking care of the house and shuttling the kids to all their church activities, sport trainings, music lessons, play dates, etc. They are both exhausted and are trying to keep their heads…
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“If you are renewed by grace, and were to meet your old self, I am sure you would be very anxious to get out of his company.” -Charles Haddon Spurgeon “I’m sorry…I can see how I hurt you.” I say this often to my wife. And I really mean it when I do. When she tells…
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