Self Awareness

Should I Go to College?

By Ryan Bailey / February 12, 2020 /

To college or not to college? That is the question. Maybe you’ve struggled to make good grades in middle and high school. Maybe the career path you want to pursue emphasizes real work experience over a degree. Maybe you simply see college as a waste of time and money. How can you tell what is the right thing…

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Keeping a Short Account with God

By Ryan Bailey / January 3, 2020 /

Jack woke up at 3am, and once again he could not fall back asleep. Not even getting into his perfect sleep position seemed to help, even though he was tired. He wasn’t particularly worried about anything. He just could not fall back asleep. He used to get good sleep, but for some reason that stopped a…

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How to Create the Desire to Change

By Ryan Bailey / January 3, 2020 /

Let’s face it. We know what Scriptures says. We know the sins we’ve kept alive for years. They are not changing. Now really think of this… Do you really want to change? You know you are supposed to change. You know you should change, but do you really want to change? Even as I type this, I…

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The Cost of Not Forgiving

By Ryan Bailey / April 9, 2019 /

By Ryan C. Bailey Does someone in your life keep relating the same painful story over and over again? Is it getting old? Like you’ve heard it all before, and you wonder why they have to keep sharing it? Is there a part of you that doesn’t even want to be around that person? Listen…

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The Secret To Moving Past Betrayal

By Ryan Bailey / November 29, 2018 /

You have been through a lot of pain.  A massive level of betrayal rocked your world, and life has changed.   Now, some time later, the pain isn’t as sharp, but it’s there.  Just reading the first paragraph of this blog makes you more aware of it than before you started reading. What happened to…

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In Defense of Introspection

By Ryan Bailey / January 27, 2017 /

“There is a great deal of pain in life and perhaps the only pain that can be avoided is the pain that comes from trying to avoid pain.” -R.D. Laing “Where do I start?” Almost every person that sits across from me has trouble knowing how to tell me their story…how they got to be sitting in a…

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Living in the Gray

By Ryan Bailey / December 9, 2016 /

As I reflect on this previous year, I am struck by a constant theme I saw in a lot of the work I did with clients. When people have experienced years of abuse, unhealthy relationships, darkness, and relentless anxiety…they tend to make sense of it all by reducing it to small, bite-size statements of fact…

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A Selfless Advent

By Ryan Bailey / December 2, 2016 /

Over the Thanksgiving holiday, my wife and I traveled on several flights and as many of you know, this provides sufficient time for reflection, rest…and people watching. More often than not, I get really excited about flying. I understand why people don’t like it, but I’m pretty content to sit and read or watch movies…

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What to Do with Sexual Desires

By Ryan Bailey / November 14, 2016 /

Last week, we explored reasons why our sexual desires exist in the first place. They are good, created by a good God, to draw us deeper into relational intimacy with himself and with others. By understanding why these desires exist, we gain a greater framework for understanding how to navigate them. One of my primary purposes…

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On Masturbation

By Ryan Bailey / November 14, 2016 /

This post may disappoint you. Because I think in a topic like masturbation, we are often looking for one of two things: assurance that it’s okay (that essentially we’re okay and normal) or clear Biblical passages on why it’s not okay. What you’ll find instead is my perspective, which is one of many other perspectives on the topic of…

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