If you’re reading this, you may feel stuck, ashamed, or tired of fighting alone. You’re not alone—and you’re not beyond hope.
Many have walked this road and found real freedom—not by willpower, but by letting God’s holy love meet them in the struggle, one day at a time.
How to Use This Resource
- Grab a notebook or [download our CHEW Questions Journal Page].
- After each section, pause and write out your answers. Don’t rush—let yourself go deep. If you need help getting started, check out our sample question and answer here.
- When you run out of answers, ask a new CHEW question, ask a trusted friend, or look up what wise Christians say about your question.
- At the end, you’ll find a 7-Day CHEW Challenge and ways to connect with others for support.
Step 1: Get Honest About Your Struggle
- What triggers you to look at porn? (boredom, loneliness, stress, anger, curiosity, habit, etc.)
- What are you hoping porn will give you? (comfort, escape, excitement, affirmation, relief, control, etc.)
- What do you feel right after? (shame, numbness, regret, emptiness, self-hate, etc.)
Step 2: Identify the Core Need Beneath the Struggle
- What am I really longing for right now? (to feel loved, to belong, to be seen, to be known, to have peace, to feel alive)
- What lie am I tempted to believe about God or myself? (I’m dirty, I’ll never change, God is disappointed, I’m alone, I’m too broken)
Step 3: Match Your Struggle to a Characteristic of God’s Love
God’s love for you is:
- Forgiving and cleansing (1 John 1:9)
- Unconditional and steadfast (Romans 8:38–39)
- Present and personal (Hebrews 13:5)
- Transforming and powerful (2 Corinthians 3:18)
- Patient and gentle (Psalm 103:8)
- Delighting and affirming (Zephaniah 3:17)
Step 4: CHEW Questions for Porn Struggles
Write out your answers in detail—don’t stop until you can’t think of any more. When you run out, try a new question, ask a friend, or look up biblical resources. Check out an example of what this looks like here.
Forgiveness & Cleansing
- If I really believed God’s love is forgiving, how would that change how I see my past failures?
- If I really believed Jesus cleanses me completely, how would that change my shame after I fall?
- If I really believed I’m not defined by my sin but by Christ, how would that change my self-talk today?
Unconditional & Steadfast Love
- If I really believed God’s love doesn’t change when I mess up, how would that affect my willingness to run to Him after I sin?
- If I really believed nothing can separate me from His love, how would that change my battle with temptation?
- If I really believed God loves me at my worst, how would that change the way I see myself right now?
Presence & Intimacy
- If I really believed God is with me in my loneliness, how would that change how I handle late-night urges?
- If I really believed God sees me and still loves me, how would that change my desire to hide?
- If I really believed God wants to be close to me, how would that change my search for connection in porn?
Power to Change
- If I really believed God’s love is powerful enough to change me, how would that shape my hope for freedom?
- If I really believed the Holy Spirit lives in me, how would that change my expectations for today?
- If I really believed God can renew my mind, how would that change my habits and choices?
Delight & Affirmation
- If I really believed God delights in me as His child, how would that change my search for affirmation in images?
- If I really believed I’m already loved and chosen, how would that change my need for excitement or escape?
- If I really believed God’s approval matters more than anyone else’s, how would that change my cravings?
Patience & Gentleness
- If I really believed God is patient with me, how would that change my frustration with slow progress?
- If I really believed God’s kindness leads me to repentance, how would that change my response after I fall?
- If I really believed God’s love is gentle, how would that change the way I treat myself in this struggle?
Purpose & Identity
- If I really believed God has a purpose for my sexuality, how would that change my view of porn?
- If I really believed my identity is in Christ, not my struggle, how would that change my story?
- If I really believed God can use my brokenness for good, how would that change my willingness to seek help?
Step 5: Meditate, Pray, and Apply
- Reflect on a key verse:
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” —1 John 1:9
Pause and pray: “Father, thank You for Your faithful, cleansing love. Help me believe this is true for me, even now.” - Let God’s Word shape your thinking and heart:
- Write the verse on a card or your phone.
- Repeat it when tempted or discouraged.
- Ask God to help you trust His promise, not your feelings.
Step 6: 7-Day CHEW Challenge
- Pick one CHEW question each day.
- Journal your answers, going as deep as you can.
- Share one insight with a trusted friend or CHEW group.
- Pray and ask God to help you believe and live out His truth.
Transparency Note:
This resource is crafted in collaboration with advanced AI tools and thoughtfully finalized by the 1st Principle Group staff to ensure biblical faithfulness and practical relevance for our readers.
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