“I’ve tried everything, but CHEW on This™ is the first thing that actually stopped me in my tracks when I was tempted.”
When Nothing Else Works—What If This Is Different?
You’ve probably tried a lot of things to change. Maybe you’ve read books, prayed harder, joined groups, or made promises to yourself—only to find yourself back in the same rut, wondering if real transformation is even possible. Maybe you’re tired of feeling like you’re living two lives: the one everyone sees, and the one you can’t seem to change.
What if there was a tool that actually worked—not just for a day or a week, but in those moments when you’re most tempted to give up? What if you could finally experience God’s love in a way that breaks old cycles and brings real freedom, peace, and joy?
Are you ready to experience what so many others have found? Let’s see how it works.
Daniel’s Story: When God’s Love Reaches the Root
Daniel’s life looked great from the outside—successful at work, leading a thriving church small group, and active in the dating scene. But privately, he struggled with a daily porn habit that started at 14.
Growing up, Daniel’s parents’ love felt tied to his performance. When he excelled, they were proud; when he failed, he felt isolated and shamed. Over time, he believed: “To be loved, I must be ideal.” Porn became a way to soothe the ache, especially as he gravitated toward images of “ideal” women—hoping their approval would make him feel lovable.
He tried everything to break free—accountability apps, fasting, confession—but nothing lasted. Then Daniel discovered the CHEW on This™ framework. For the first time, he addressed the root of his struggle: the belief that love must be earned. Through daily use of CHEW, he began to experience God’s counter-conditional love—love that is steadfast, delighting, and not based on performance.
Over time, Daniel saw real change: less compulsion, more peace, and a new confidence that he was loved as God’s son, not for what he did, but for who God is.
The CHEW on This™ Framework: Your Tool for Real Transformation
This isn’t about working harder or adding another spiritual task. It’s about making space for God’s love to move from your head to your heart, and from your heart into your choices, relationships, and daily life.
Step 1: Confess — Name Where You Struggle or Long to Grow
Start with honesty before God.
- “God, I feel like I have to earn Your love.”
- “I want to experience more joy and freedom in You.”
- “I wish I could love others the way You love me.”
Brief Prayer:
“God, I bring You my struggle and my longing. Meet me right here with Your love.”
Step 2: Hear — Match Your Struggle or Desire with a Characteristic of God’s Love
For every struggle or longing, there’s a facet of God’s love that speaks directly to your need.
| Struggle/Longing | God’s Love | Verse |
| Feeling unworthy | Unconditional & Affirming | Romans 5:8 |
| Battling shame | Redeeming & Forgiving | Zephaniah 3:17 |
| Longing for purpose | Purposeful & Calling | Ephesians 2:10 |
| Wanting joy | Delighting & Joyful | Psalm 16:11 |
| Seeking security | Steadfast & Faithful | John 17:23 |
| Wanting to love others | Empowering & Overflowing | 1 John 4:19 |
Brief Prayer:
“Lord, open my heart to Your truth. Help me hear what You want to say to me today.”
Step 3: Exchange — How to Create a Chew Question
The Chew Question Formula:
- Start with: “If I really believed [this aspect of Your love]…”
- End with: “…how would that change [the way I see myself, respond to this situation, or live today]?”
Examples:
- Daniel’s core question:
“If I really believed that God not only loves me but is crazy about me no matter how I perform, how would that change my addiction to porn?” - For anxiety:
“If I really believed You are with me in my anxiety and Your love brings peace, how would that change the way I approach this day?” - For longing for joy:
“If I really believed Your delighting love is over me today, how would that change the way I enjoy my friendships, work, or family?” - For wanting to love others better:
“If I really believed Your love overflows in me, how would that change the way I listen, serve, and encourage those around me?”
Daniel would pause and chew on his question throughout the day, journaling or praying his answers, letting God’s truth push out the old lies. He’d adjust the question to fit different moments—before work, when tempted, or after a hard conversation.
Brief Prayer:
“Jesus, help me believe this truth in my heart and not just my head. Change me as I chew on Your love.”
Step 4: Walk — Take a Practical Step to Chew on God’s Love Today
Let God’s love move you from reflection to action:
- Set aside five minutes to pray or journal about your chew question.
- Write a truth about God’s love on a sticky note or your phone.
- Speak a truth about God’s love out loud when you catch yourself in negative self-talk.
- Share your chew question or a truth about God’s love with a friend, small group, or accountability partner—maybe even in your group chat.
- End your day by thanking God for one way you experienced His love, no matter how small.
Brief Prayer:
“Holy Spirit, give me courage and creativity to live out Your love today. Remind me to keep chewing, even when life gets busy.”
Community Makes a Difference:
Daniel shared his chew questions with his small group and accountability partner. Their prayers and encouragement helped him stay anchored in God’s love, especially on hard days. Don’t walk this journey alone—invite others in and watch God work through community.
What Changes When You CHEW on This™?
When you make this a lifestyle, you’ll notice:
- You really live. Life feels richer, more meaningful, and more enjoyable.
- You experience the fruit of the Spirit. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control become real in your life.
- You rise above tough times. God’s love gives you resilience and hope, even when life gets hard.
- You quiet the inner critic and finally feel “enough.”
- You find peace in the quiet moments—no more running from your own thoughts.
- You forgive yourself and let go of past regrets.
- You sense God’s presence in the ordinary, not just the extraordinary.
- You become more patient, gentle, and gracious—with yourself and others.
- You experience real, lasting freedom from habits and patterns that used to control you.
- You become a source of encouragement and strength to others.
- And when you fall short, you don’t put yourself in spiritual “time out” or keep your distance from God. Instead, you run to Him, knowing His arms are always open. You discover that God’s love is the safest place to land, especially after a setback.
Ready for a Challenge? Try the CHEW on This™ 7-Day Journey
What’s one area where you want to experience God’s love more deeply this week?
Try the CHEW on This™ steps every day for the next week:
- Confess your struggle or longing.
- Hear God’s love in Scripture.
- Exchange lies for truth with a chew question (use the formula above).
- Walk out one small step—and share your journey with someone you trust or in your group chat.
Notice what changes—and keep an eye out for our next post: “When You Feel Stuck in Old Patterns”. You can return to the previous post here.
Transparency Note: This series is crafted in collaboration with advanced AI tools and thoughtfully finalized by the 1st Principle Group staff to ensure biblical faithfulness and practical relevance for our readers. All stories are fictional and not a representation of any one client.
